Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts

Sunday, December 26, 2010

What Could Ruin Your Relationships?


An excerpt from "Who You Are When No One's Looking" by Bill Hybels:

Most people have no idea how much their physical condition undermines their attempts to love other people. They fail to realize that it takes physical energy to listen, to serve, to confront and to encourage people who need help sorting out life. Not only are physically run-down people short on energy; they also tend to be easily irritated, critical, short-fused, defensive and negative. (Any names coming to mind?) It is hard for them to love others, and it is equally hard for others to love them.

You and I both know the three rules for staying fit: eat right, sleep enough and exercise. Most Americans eat far too much sugar and fat; consequently, many are overweight. It is also why people suffer from sugar highs and lows, and it has a lot to do with the high rate of heart disease. It is impossible to maintain good physical reserves on a junk-food diet.

In addition, some people add insult to injury by being careless about sleep. If you don't wake up reasonably refreshed, you're probably not spending enough time in bed. Or maybe the time you spend there is less than refreshing because the coffee you drank all day or the greasy slice of pizza you ate at midnight is keeping you awake.

But the real kicker is exercise. Here's a good clue: If your only form of physical activity on a typical day involves walking down the hall to the next meeting, you're missing the exercise boat. I know, I know, there's not enough time to exercise. Trust me, either take the time to workout or you'll be spending all of your time cleaing up the relational messes you make because you're always wiped out.



I know when I think of exercise I think in terms of health conditions, maintaining a certain weight, looking my best, etc. but this page really jumped out at me of why so many people might be so darn crabby. They aren't moving enough!

I've seen it happen in my own life. I remember a point last school year when I took about a week off to write papers, study for exams and make sure everything was turned in. That week was HELL! I remember thinking to myself, "Why the heck are you SNAPPING at EVERYBODY!?" Omg I was a bitch.

And I didn't realize I missed working out until I did it. I decided one night that I would wait to write the paper and go do a 45 minute workout dvd, I felt SO much better!

But there are so many people who have never tried to exercise - meaning they don't know what they are missing out on. I've personally seen it, someone's personality will do a 360 once they start working out. The crabbiest person can transform into the one with the most spirit! That person becomes the one attracting people instead of pushing others out with their off-personality.

Don't let something like exercise ruin your relationships with others. You never know who you could be sending the wrong message out to!

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Fun Summer Read



DISCLAIMER: Don't look past this post because you aren't a fan of Chelsea Handler -- I wasn't either! I used to change the channel because I just wasn't amused... but there I was standing in the Target book aisle, waiting for Mat to return from either looking at video games or Blu-Rays... I picked up her book "My Horizontal Life: A Collection One-Night Stands" and I literally LOL-ed.

Chelsea can write!

I finished this book in probably less then 2 days.

The book starts with her being a little kid and her older siblings daring her to walk in on her parents having sex & take a picture....and that's where it all began!

She's ridiculously random and I'm really surprised she didn't talk about getting an STD (she's had to have gotten something with that crazy lifestyle!). She talks about midgets, skid-marks and her love for black men.

But if you aren't a fun of lude humor, don't get the book!! You'll probably hate it. If you want to get a good laugh, get it!

I did go on to read her other books, "Are You There Vodka? It's Me Chelsea" and "Chelsea Chelsea Bang Bang" but I would have to say the first one is my favorite!

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Strengthening your Relationship

Hey everyone! I wanted to share this article with you written by the inspirational Chalene Johnson. You can find her on facebook, here! That's where you'll find many more gems of advice, like this one.


7 day To-Do list to Strengthen your Relationship

Sometimes we spend so much time working on our business, our body, our image, our clean home that we forget to put the most important thing first!


1 Read or listen to at least one book or CD on how to improve your relationship

2 Greet your partner as if it's the happiest moment of your day!

3 Start having more sex tonight! Not in the mood? Tired? Too bad! Just start!

4 Set a non-negotiable date night each week.

5 Figure out your partners desired expression of love.

6 Plan to deliver your partners desired expression of love 3x this week.

7 Write your significant other a quick "I love your because" note.

8 Ask your partner for one thing you could be doing to make them happier

9 Tell your spouse or partner all the things you find "sexy" about them.

10 Work to improve something you know drives your spouse batty

11 Tell your partner how important their support is on your fitness journey.

12 Figure out a way to spend more time with your spouse and less time apart

13 Ask your partner to set a 5 year list of goals for your family.

14 Do/say something to make your partner feel like the center of your universe

15 Listen with your full attention

16 Compliment your partner on something you know they take pride in

17 Do something care taking, but unexpected for your partner

18 Vow to join your partner doing "their favorite" activity

19 Commit to spending less time consumed by media when your home

20 Write a long love letter to your spouse.

21 Remind yourself daily of your blessings.